Your body never lies. Only your mind lies. Your mind has created the mess of your life. Had you have stayed in touch with your body, your life would probably be percolating along—just humming, with you having everything that you need, without suffering.
These ‘rites of passage’ ceremonies (otherwise referred to as ‘initiation rituals’) are valuable tools for anyone who wants to consciously move into the beginning of a new phase of their life, and hence, mark the end of the previous chapter. The deliberate and intentional manner that this ceremony is performed in has a profound impact on the subconscious – sending a clear message to the individual to prepare for a transition. This process prepares the individual to move through changes in their life with more awareness and the resources to handle the changes gracefully. It also aids the collective (community) in embracing the changes taking place for the person that they are connected to because when something within that which we are a part of changes, it affects every other part.
For many generations, there has been heavy repression of sexual expression through religious and societal conditioning. When our natural life force (sexual energy) is repressed; fear, violence, shame, perversions, guilt and a multitude of disorders prevail. Over time this has created a lot of mystery and superstition around sex, who we really are and how to relate intimately in a fulfilling and satisfying way. This has been one of the main contributions to why most of us have wounds related to our sexuality and femininity.
Much misunderstanding is birthed from the view of Western mentality when peering into such customs. It seems, to a society attached to feminist ideas, that because a woman is removed and there are traditions that are exclusively for women, that it was somehow a forced concept by male power. Yet, this is farther from the truth than some would realise. In fact, in all that I have witnessed and experienced, such customs are in reverence to the power of the woman, not the inferiority. I believe we are the ones who invoke inferiority concepts to our women because we DON’T respect or recognize this power, and instead choose to replace ritual and ceremony with fast-paced lifestyles that do not allow us to remove ourselves and feel our own power.
" Because our mother is our doorway into this world, our relationship with our mother is one of the most profound and important experiences that we have because our relationship with our mother is the foundation for our relationship to life. But for all of us, healing the ‘mother wound’ is one of the key issues that need to be addressed in order for us to grow as a woman and mature into our own spirituality. " Shantam Nityama