The Dragon of Illusion

Transforming your mother wound means stepping through the veil of your illusion that you ever needed anything outside of you to thrive. Into being directly connected with your creator for all you require.

Pure sovereign empowerment only comes through awakening here and now in consciousness and making our new choice. It's essential to know where we are in Consciousness - to change it.

Mythology has given us a road map of our psychology to guide us on our spiritual quest to our inner treasure - our gifts, our siddhi powers.

The mythologies of the ancient cultures talk about the dragon that guards our treasures. It is a symbol of our illusions.

Scripture says:

"Name a thing, and you have power of it!"
Name your dragon, and your illusion dissolves into your true fortune.

This fire breathing dragon is guarding the doorway to your land of plenty, your heart's desires, your OPULENT life. And so all of us in our upgrades, evolution & elevation are going to meet our DRAGON.

I believe the symbol of the dragon guarding our treasure is the illusion of our mother wound - the mother of all wounds.

I believe this is the deepest level of our causal body, and by addressing our mother wound - we heal all wounds and all corresponding manifestations.

We resurrect our bloodlines and liberate our spirit from the bondage of karmic/ancestral patterns passed through our lineages from which we come.

In Wild Lotus, we cultivate our skills to face our 'dragon 'and walk through our veils into our heaven on earth.

When you Make your choice to touch and stay, miracles manifest instantaneously.

Whatever arises, say out loud:
"I choose to stay." Whatever fire breathing dragon is guarding my treasure - "I have what it takes."
"I touch, and I stay, and I have my outcomes. I am already what I desire."

And we BE that, and our world transforms too.

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What is Wild Lotus?

Wild Lotus is a profoundly powerful sacred sexual, spiritual practice for women today. 

I have cultivated this unique practice over the past 23 years through her personal journey and assisting hundreds of women worldwide in my courses and retreats - resurrecting divine feminine wisdom, ways, sexuality and divine union. 

Many inspirations and teachings have arrived from ancient sources and powerful mentors I have met along the way. The true brilliance of Wild Lotus is that it is birthed new and fresh in each moment directly out of the heart of God, making it supremely applicable to our lives today and to the women present in each moment.

Wild Lotus is not a person or place but rather a realm or state of consciousness that we all can occupy and enhanced by our coming together. 

Wild Lotus provides a virtual spiritual community to fortify the power of love healing and manifestation in the hearts and wombs of all women. If you choose - if you agree and if you participate at beyond your total capacity. Anything less than your full YES will leave you with the bitter taste of dissolution and personal sabotage. 

I believe right now on our earth, we are being asked to choose 

“ To choose ye this day whom ye shall serve. “

And if your choice is to serve only love - then do be it. 

In my experience, choosing to serve only truth requires devotion and support. Creating community becomes the greatest asset to warriors of light. 

Wild Lotus is your community - if you choose to be supported in this way. If you choose to have your team of powerful women voting your victory and celebrating your miracles daily! If you choose to unite in love for what matters most right now! 

Do you know you have the power to manifest anything your heart desires? If so, please join us and play with us - resurrecting our temples of love - in your own home!

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Mother Wound

What is the Mother Wound? Why is it crucial for us to address it?

When I refer to the mother wound I am referring to our unconscious programming in thought, word and feeling patterns that we pick up from our mothers either directly or through osmosis during conception, birth, bonding and fusion on into our formative years up to around age 7.

From the moment we are conceived we are taking in information from and through our mothers that nurture our lives physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Our individuation process is where we begin to define ourselves, others and our world through our experience which is in most cases strongly influenced by our symbiotic phase. As we individuate, typically a little girl will either model herself after her mother or do the opposite. In both cases ending up with the same carbon copy consciousness.

Transforming our mother wound is a personal and collective metamorphosis where we consciously resurrect our true nature and purpose through prayer, forgiveness and conscious choice.

This is an easy, graceful and deeply rewarding inquiry that will nurture all areas of your life in simple and profound ways.

The process is led by your own spirit and moves in your own timing. By being willing to have your courage to live your life, you will bless all life everywhere especially those dearest to you.

Some common fears that surface are those of ‘losing our mothers’. The truth is if you fear losing, you never had her in the first place. By stepping through the veil of your illusions with your mother - you get your life and the best relationship with another sovereign being. In most cases, miraculous healing occurs, whether she is near or far, in body or transitioned.

The mother wound is not just about healing with our mums - it’s about healing with all aspects of ourselves in all ways. How so?

Our mothers are our first teachers and so we learn everything from them. From how to eat, sleep and wipe our bum, through to how we relate to men, sex, love, marriage, health, wealth, prosperity, beauty - literally all areas of our lives are informed through our first relationship or lack of.

These patterns do not belong solely to us or our mothers. They are an accumulation of generations of women's survival mode and systematic conditioning. In other words, the difficulties we may encounter in the relationship with our mother may not be due to you or her but actually to the conditioning - that doesn’t work for either of you. We all have a choice to go along with the okey-dokey, or face ourselves and call forth true love.

When we walk through our mother wound - we forgive our patterns and make new conscious choices - we liberate the energy that is now free to serve all areas of our lives: relationships, career, our true calling, family life, on and on and on.

Scripture says: “The sins of the parents are visited on children for 4 generations." When we consciously choose to reverse our conditioned way of being into our true nature - we will find ourselves facing and forgiving all aspects of how we were mothered.

By making the unconscious - conscious we wake up to our life of love.

Are you called to unleash your sacred feminine power here and now for you and your linage?

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Reconnect with The Mother

Get back in your body and reconnect with The Mother

Your body never lies. Only your mind lies. Your mind has created the mess of your life. Had you have stayed in touch with your body, your life would probably be percolating along—just humming, with you having everything that you need, without suffering. 

There needs to be some difference between men and women for attraction to exist. The more we become androgynous looking, the more there is no real activity happening between men and women. What is the draw? There is no contrast. There is no polar opposite to go to.  You cannot find that anymore. So then, what do women do? 

What women fail to understand is that if you over-exercise, and you do certain things, you are going to start creating too much testosterone in your body and it is going to throw your hormones out of whack. You were intended to be where you are natural. This whole thing “I am going to change it because of my mind,”—yes, you can get up, go and change your whole nature, but do you want to? This is some question that people need to start asking themselves before they start crisscrossing over to the point that you start all looking alike. You cannot tell a man from a woman walking down the street these days. 

Women fought for women's rights, they wanted equal rights to men. And now you try to figure out: What do I do with this mess I created—me wanting to know what they had? You needed to want what you needed, and it is something different. You never checked to see what women actually needed, or you would have gone into the work force and you would have said, first of all, every position in the government, every position anywhere where there is a man there needs to be a female counterpart sitting right next to him with equal voting rights, and hopefully she is in no way a man, she is still a woman. Most of the women that went into corporate, they all became men. They brought absolutely none of the feminine energy into the corporate world. They never brought the representation of the Mother. And Love. 

You have got to get back in your body. We were given these bodies - Day One on arrival. Most of us know nothing about the body that we were given. Do we understand the body that was entrusted to us under our care? Do we feel like we have come to a place where we would consciously and responsibly take care of it in order to do the things that the Creator sent you down here to do? Because if your health is gone, it is gone—the game is over. 

I had been healing other healers. I had been doing things with other people, massage and different types of things for years. Everybody told me, “Your hands are so powerful,” but in all those years, I never massaged myself. One day I put my hands on myself and started touching myself and felt the power that was coming through my hands—I cried for two days. Who is so unintelligent that they were given the most precious thing on the plane and never give it to themselves? I realised I was functioning from a place of total unconsciousness. I needed to correct myself before I started doing anything for anybody else, like they say on the airplane, put your mask on first and then help children and old people.

Now the thing that most people on the plane/planet (whatever it is that we happen to be sitting on) need to understand is that they are disconnected from the Mother. When I am talking about the Mother I am in no way talking about the earth, even though the earth is part of the Mother. It is not the entirety of the Mother. The Mother includes everything; earth and everything else. So I need to be aware of where that lives in me, because that is what is supposed to be guiding my life. So I need the 'felt-sense' of it in me, not an idea, or a concept. Those never become practical.

Once you understand how you work, you realize all that there is in there is silence unless you are still playing with all the craziness that they gave to keep you constantly in chatter. We have to disengage and choose: How am I going to spend my precious life force? If I give my life force to something, am I going to feel good about myself tomorrow for having done that? Is what I contribute going to create hardship for somebody else? Or even what I take away, is it going to create hardship for somebody else? We have to start asking deep and profound spiritual questions about ourselves. 

If you are a sane person on this plane you will always have to question what goes on here, because everything is insane.  This is where we find ourselves. We know that this is insane, but what we also know, is that we have never, ever, in our whole life used our intelligence to our own benefit. We have to reverse-engineer our own insanity. Nobody else is coming and doing it for you. If you never get involved in it, it will never happen. This is what I am attempting to tell all the people that I know, friends, family, everybody: Wake up.

They threw you out in a world with nothing to function with. You have nothing to deal with this world. Your mind will never figure it out. So now, what is it that they never gave you that you needed desperately, in order to live a sane life? You needed some way to do divination so you could get in touch with your destiny, what you came here for. The simplest way to do that is to take a simple divination tool. The thing in it is you want to make sure that you really understand what you are doing because you can trick yourself too.  

You need a divination tool that is really solid. Then you can sit down when your mind has some thought running through it and throw the divination. It will tell you: Yes, No. Simple. If you get a no, there is no need for you to pursue that train of thought. Forget about it and wait for the next one. And keep on asking the Mother until you land on something. 

The other thing that I am also doing—and I am putting it out—is that I am getting ready to start doing something here on this plane to liberate women and children. If nobody is going to do it, I will. But one thing I am also putting out: If I put my life out on the line at seventy years old for you, you have got to support me. You have got to pat my back. You have got to come see me, and refrain from going away and lying because you are not courageous enough to do what needs to be done. If you are in no way going to be a part of the solution, then refrain from trying to tear down what you do not have the courage to do.  

Women have got to start putting other women in check when they hear them doing this kind of stuff. You condone it by listening and never speaking up for truth. You have to get up in alignment and speak your truth, or you are going to end up in real difficulties because of your refusal to align with truth. You cannot have two masters. Either you are about truth, or you are about a bunch of bullshit. At least be clear with yourself which one it is, so you know what to do if you decide to change. If you are convoluting everything, twisting everything to keep other people mixed up, you will one day become mixed up about your own life and may never be able to straighten it out.

These are fragile things that people are playing with, but they act like these things are in no way breakable. They can be broken. Our mind is very fragile. People are playing with it like it does not mean anything. 

I looked at most of the things here on this plane and I said, “I have no desire to be a part of this insanity.” So what does that mean? I have got to understand how to do things in ways that other people have no idea of. I have to do research. I have to stay up nights. People want to be free, but they do not want the responsibility of doing what it takes to be free. They want it for nothing. 

I stopped dealing with shit completely. If you are no longer dealing with shit, you do not have to shuffle shit. But you have got to recognize what shit is and leave it alone. No one else is going to come in and determine that for you. What if I see someone that realizes that shit is shit and keeps eating it? I say, “We are done. Our time together is over. I am in no way afraid that you are going to make me eat any, but I do not want to smell it on your breath, so I am going to leave.”

We have got a million and one reasons why “I can't let go of my misery”. Unless you can let go of your misery unconditionally—let everybody off the hook—you will never know bliss. I guarantee it.

The mind was never intended to make any decisions

Decisions are never made from the mind. This is why everybody’s life is a mess, because they’re trying to use their minds to make decisions. The mind was never intended to make any decisions, ever.

 Only people that have a mind that were never instructed what a mind is for even attempt that feat because it’s impossible. 

This is the reason why everybody’s in a mess here on this plane, they’re doing everything backwards. And struggling. 

In other words, 88 days before you were born, the Mother put,- it hardwired into your body what your life was to be about.  That hardwiring is what you’re intended to live your life in alignment with. But now when you were born - 88 days later, your mind came into existence. But it was borrowed. It wasn’t a part of you originally. So, everything that’s in your mind, you got it from ; parents, religion, school, propaganda, lies, commercials, the medical industry, the political propaganda- that’s what your mind is made of.

But nothing in that mind that they gave you has your best interest at heart.

It’s actually a suicidal mind that has been given to everyone, and they have accepted it.

 Because anytime that you have a brain and all that stuff, if you leave your body, and stop listening to your body which is connected to the Mother, especially for you women -  you came to the plane to represent the mother and to embody that frequency, so that love would be present down here. But that’s a feminine energy. What happened is that everybody came here, got twisted up, and the women decided that they would rather be men than women. Now we only have male energy running around here. And most of the women unconsciously pattern themselves after psychotic, sick male energy. They never even decided to find intelligent, conscious, spiritual men to mimic, they chose the worst element of man to mimic. Greedy, selfish, controlling, murdering. You go and give your life force and your energy to that kind of a situation..  what were women thinking? what were the men thinking to condone for the women to even go do that? It just tore the community apart.

Nitvana Bodywork Training - level 1

A short film that shows a beautiful insight to the energy world and the Nitvana Bodywork Training with Shantam Nityama in the UK August  2016.

Rites of Passage – Sacred Sexual Initiation Ceremonies for Women

“A ‘Sacred Rite of Passage’ is an ancient ceremony that dissolves the negative impact generated through societal and inherited conditioning, traumas and destructive behaviour patterns. At the same time, the ceremony creates an opening for the woman to give birth to her self, her true nature and the reclamation of her authentic feminine identity. ”

— Roxanna Minnona

What are Rites of Passage and what are the benefits? 

‘Rites of Passage’ are the sacred ceremonies and rituals of initiation (e.g. into womanhood, manhood, tribal customs etc.) specifically tailored to the intention or needs of a particular culture. Since ancient times, traditional cultures around the world that have a close affinity to the earth and the natural forces around us have practiced . 

These ‘rites of passage’ ceremonies (otherwise referred to as ‘initiation rituals’) are valuable tools for anyone who wants to consciously move into the beginning of a new phase of their life, and hence, mark the end of the previous chapter. The deliberate and intentional manner that this ceremony is performed in has a profound impact on the subconscious – sending a clear message to the individual to prepare for a transition. This process prepares the individual to move through changes in their life with more awareness and the resources to handle the changes gracefully. It also aids the collective (community) in embracing the changes taking place for the person that they are connected to because when something within that which we are a part of changes, it affects every other part. For example, when a child comes into adolescence initiation is a process whereby they must relinquish their childhood and all the associated childish ways if living – including their childish attitudes, behaviors and thought patterns – in order to prepare them for their transition into young adulthood and taking their place within the community in a more vital capacity. This process also aids those who are intimately connected to the individual, (e.g. the mother and father), so they can let go without being disruptive or obstructive to the change that is also occurring within them. This is especially for the mother who must let go of her role as the caretaker. Without this appropriate transition, the mother’s nurturingand protection can suffocate the child as he/she attempts to evolve naturally.

These ceremonies are an instrumental component of every earth-based culture that honours the sacredness of life and choses to live in harmony with the universal laws that govern everything. They have been an intrinsic part of living a more connected and conscious life, and yet interestingly, are almost entirely absent in our modern society where coming of age ceremonies have mostly been replaced by alcohol abuse and other destructive activitiesThese modern ‘drinking rituals’ replace the essential tools that equip the child to grow into their adult hood and live a mature, intelligent life. Instead, they instill destructive habits to cope with the lack of internal readiness for what the world now demands of them simply due to their age. Sadly, this lack of sacred and rightful initiation is attributed as one of the most common causes of adolescent drug abuse, increased suicide rates and mental disturbances. 

Why do women need rites of passage?

For the past 17 years, I’ve incorporated ‘Rites of Passage’ ceremonies into the Sacred Sexual Awakening Retreats that I hold for women all over the world.

Through this experience I have come to realise that the majority of women I have come into contact with are over-identified with their masculine energy and live in a mode that is primarily devoid of true feminine identity and expression. There are many devastating side effects of this – the most significant being a sense of inferiority and lack of self worth. More specifically, it is a lack of understanding of their true feminine nature and its inherent value. This is something most women struggle with and it affects every area of their life – from the career paths they choose, to their relationships and the quality of sexual fulfillment, (or lack thereof) they experience. It also contributes to the degree of inequality between the sexes, in particular the discrimination experienced by women in the workplace, home and society in general. 

“The United Nations Convention to Eliminate All Forms of Discrimination against women states that, “the degree that peace, international security, disarmament, and mutual co-operation among nations are strengthened, equality between men and women will be achieved.” However, I believe that this statement must be reversed for it’s intentions to be realised – i.e. that only when real equality exists between the sexes is achieved, will peace be possible.
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— Dario Salas Sommers

Women have been greatly affected by our modern masculinised world where so much value is placed on the external experience – achievements, the opinions of others, financial success, popularity, body image and so on. Being fixated with the external creates a certain type of complex in the unconscious mind of a little girl. She is so open and absorbing of the conditions around her that she begins to see her gender as “lacking something”.This sense of “lack” is emphasised by neglecting to acknowledge the value of the feminine, its vast infinite potential to create, its wide spacious bliss and its fundamental role in life.

Ultimately, what develops is an inferiority complex where women begin to adopt and imitate masculine qualities and role models. When women divorce themselves from their natural feminine nature and developed an identity that is pieced together from masculine principals and qualities, the tendency is to compete with men for power, or seek to catch men for security and compete with other women, initially represented by the mother. Creating laws for protection against discrimination only seeks to reinforce their inferiority, for the inferior must be protected. It’s a mistake to try and change the external conditions in the hope of solving problems that belong to the inner world of humans because the work that needs to be done is an ‘inside job’. 

The first requirement for one’s transformation is to understand one’s mechanical and repetitive behaviour and how such behaviour halts the evolution of a woman. There is a tremendous amount of social pressure directed at women suggesting that motherhood will fulfill her destiny. However, motherhood in and of itself does not automatically bestow divine enlightened qualities upon a woman. 

What is essential in the process of women’s self-realisation and spiritual pursuits is to rectify the imbalance of feminine energy within their being by restoring their femininity through reconnecting to their true nature. How can motherhood or adopted masculine identities be the only options for women to fulfill themselves in this life? There is a third option – the choice of free and conscious individual development. Through my work I have discovered that thee rites of passage ceremony is a powerful approach because it deals directly with the inner realms of the mysterious. 

The aim of the women’s rites of passage ceremony is to give women a connection to their true identity so that they will truly know what their psychic sexuality means. As most spiritual practices are created by men for men, women need spiritual practices that speak directly to the womb of women. Rites of passage offer a pathway for a woman to make contact with the psychic power of her womb and familiarise herself with the alchemical nature of her inner world. Becoming a real woman has nothing to do with age, hormones, passion or physical appearance. It is about an individual realisation based on the cultivation and development of inner values. We must cultivate the ability to self reflect, project inside (rather than externally), transform, develop and materialise.

HOW DOES THE CEREMONY WORK? 

“Like all deaths and births, the Rites of Passage elicits the presence of the profound where sensory awareness is heighted and psychic antennas are finely attuned to navigating the mysterious void with acute precision. Participants complete the process feeling renewed, stripped of limitations and unnecessary preoccupations, and leave with a refreshed outlook on life and a restored faith in the vast power of the feminine creative spirit.”

— Roxanna Minnona

As we step out of the ordinary everyday and into the EXTRA–ordinary reality (which is really where the woman’s being resides) the process of initiation is quite miraculous. When we step into this zone, we meet ourself and become reacquainted with our true feminine nature. 

When this ceremony is approached in the context of becoming more self-aware and accountable, it can generate a lot of the power required to dismantle and dissolve a woman’s external egoic fixations and false attachments. The logic behind the ceremony is that by utilising the energy field of the group the vibratration of the women partaking in the ritual is increased. This serves to transform lower base energies (of fear, guilt and shame) into higher frequency energies (of love, compassion, insight and connection to the divine). In this higher vibrational state a charge of energy is accessible that can transform many aspects of a woman’s life by dislodging some of the most stubborn emotional, psychological and sexual blocks she may have been attempting to resolve for many years. 

As each woman steps into her rite of passage, the other women consciously and lovingly witness her. This gives her the added insight to deeply view into the nature of all things, of herself and the inherited conditions that have got in the way of her natural connection to the feminine. In this way she finds a harmonious unity by bridging her inner and out worlds.

As each woman steps into her rite of passage, the other women consciously and lovingly witness her. This gives her the added insight to deeply view into the nature of all things, of herself and the inherited conditions that have got in the way of her natural connection to the feminine. In this way she finds a harmonious unity by bridging her inner and out worlds.

THE METAPHYSICS BEHIND THE RITUAL

Cleaning the container - the vessel that holds the womb of all creation

What is most important for women to appreciate about their spiritual work is that it is first and foremost for their own well-being. Secondly, it is fundamental to the evolution of humanity. 

Aside from birthing human beings, the woman’s womb is capable of birthing all creation. This is a fundamental role of all evolved women to recognise and to embody this higher spiritual aspiration, a woman also must recognise and tend to the essential ‘house keeping’ that is required to keep the womb of creation clarified and in higher order. 

All men and women come into this world through the womb of women and are in their duty of care during infancy. The mother is their first contact with the world and first exposure to learning. So by nature, women are the teachers of the world and by this natural role they have a responsibility to humanity to evolve themselves. If a person does not fulfill their personal inner work first, then it is impossible to give anything to other people as logically, no-one can give something one has never had. 

he decision to become authentic is to first sublimate the part of the personality that is selfish, greedy, savage, irresponsible and unaccountable. A woman’s emotional sensibility is where she has a direct connection with nature.This is a very powerful force! So depending on her emotional states, she herself directs the force either constructively or destructively. 

Therefore it is of utmost importance that the woman dedicates herself to ‘cleaning’ her container to purify feelings and clear herself of unresolved hurts, resentment, hatred, jealousy, greed, envy, aggression and other destructive feelings. This cleansing may be of old residual traumas from early childhood or inherited through the genetic linage. The cleansing process may also be required periodically as on-going maintenance, just as you would clean your house. Cleaning the inner temple is crucial for women’s wellbeing as they carry the womb of creation from which all is made manifest. If her container is uncared for or neglected, the contaminants will greatly affect the quality of her life and all those around her including the community that she is part of. 

 

Returning to the Source of Innocence

The rite of passage invites the woman to let go of everything, especially all that she thinks she knows or has done in her life, (especially in her so called ‘spiritual aspirations’), so that she can begin to discover firsthand the ‘Genetic Feminine’ – meaning the place where the memory of nature lives within her. 

Because our society has become so masculine-orientated, we have failed to place importance on the feminine principal. This failure to recognise and value the feminine qualities that women represent, has had a devastating impact on women, especially on women’s sense of identify, and connection to her true feminine nature and purpose. An over-emphasis on ‘what you do’ rather than ‘who you are’ and the habitual ways of approaching life are counter to the natural flow of life. So for many women, accessing their true identity has become so convoluted. 

As the woman steps into the Ritual, she steps off the platform of all that she thinks she knows, that has been secure and familiar (even if it works against her), and steps into mystery, uncertainty and all the associated fears and unresolved emotions that comes with that. The alchemical element of this ritual will bring the woman face-to-face with her false identity. That takes tremendous courage. It also drops her deeply into the truth of her being, so that all that she has attached to that is false will start to dissolve in the light of the truth. All that remains is her authentic feminine being. 

Rebirthing a woman’s true nature and purpose

Fundamental to the realisation of a woman’s true nature and purpose is the act of witnessing and being witnessed. The ceremony takes the group beyond social constructs and niceties to drop the woman into the vast ravine of her own inner knowing. As the woman returns to her feminine nature she realises that as a woman, her nature is so intimately connected to all aspects of life. Her individuality is like a drop of water that is part of the whole ocean. This realisation begins to evoke a higher consciousness in her where her concerns begin to expand beyond the realms of personal security and into the wellbeing of all humanity. 

As the ceremony unfolds, it takes on a cosmic quality as the woman realise that what is within is reflected all around us and the line between being witnessed or witnessing begins to blur. The women witness and begin to realise that all women are struggling with the same thing and that we can come together as allies to assist each other in dislodging and breaking down the programing that has positioned us as rivals, divided and isolated from the essential support we require to remain sane and satisfied.

The ceremony becomes a firsthand experience of genuinely being there for each other as we face our deepest fears. As each woman touches into her deepest truth she uncovers her unique destiny. And through the process of witnessing she discovers something unique to herself and yet common to the story of woman. 

 

Healing the collective Feminine

It is necessary to perform this ceremony in a group of women for many reasons: 

1. The container for the ceremony is created by the participants –The rite of passage ceremony requires a preparation process within the group to build trust, connection and most importantly, to raise the energy field so that the collective energy available is required for the ritual itself;
2. Secondly, because a woman’s nature is so closely linked to all women, her ability to witness and be witnessed in the absence of judgment and criticism is an essential ingredient in weaving the fibers of the community with integrity;
3. We are all masters of deception and our ego is an escape artist! There are many aspects of self – especially our gifts, our beauty and our light that we keep hidden, even from our own eyes. When partaking in this ceremony as a group, each woman faces her deepest wounding, (the mother wound), and has the opportunity to step through the doorway of transformation to reclaim her self. 
4. It is unavoidable to attend this ceremony without feeling the edge of our limiting self. In the presence of potent transformational energy our fears and insecurities naturally arise. This creates a tremendous vulnerability and sensitivity within each woman participating, which in itself creates a safe container to reveal and explore ourselves. 

© Roxanna Minnona 2016. All rights reserved.

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Sexual Taboos and Spiritual Growth?

January 27, 2016
By Roxanna Minnona

For many generations, there has been heavy repression of sexual expression through religious and societal conditioning. When our natural life force (sexual energy) is repressed; fear, violence, shame, perversions, guilt and a multitude of disorders prevail. Over time this has created a lot of mystery and superstition around sex, who we really are and how to relate intimately in a fulfilling and satisfying way. This has been one of the main contributions to why most of us have wounds related to our sexuality and femininity. 

These long standing taboos have been enforced through silencing. In Days gone by, whenever there was an ‘issue’, the predominant attitude was “if you don’t talk about it, it will go away”. But the question is - 'go away' to where?

When the life lessons or obstacles are avoided in one generation, spiritually and somatically they pass onto the next generation until they are addressed.  

The spiritual forces that are presently on the planet are having a great impact on humanity. We are beginning to question the status quo as we seek to understand the true nature of things. We search for tools that allow us to effectively investigate ourselves and our patterns in order to restore a deep alignment with who we are authentically. 

We live in times of massive change where so many of us are called to step up and share our gifts and wisdom, holding a space of love for humanity’s transformation. The difficulties most women face in this journey arise out of the multitude of unaddressed wounds pertaining to their womanhood which relates directly to the mother wound and sexuality. Our capacity to be effective in this world is directly proportional to our inner work and ability to deeply know ourselves. Taking care of our own very necessary healing, restores integrity within our being that then enables us to hold the vast and powerful energies required for the healing of the collective. 

The retreats I offer to women are specifically designed to create a safe and inspiring environment to access hidden or latent powers and aspects of themselves for the purposes of forging a kindred and sacred relationship with their own life force (sexual energy). The most important relationship we can ever nurture is the one with ourself. All other relationships are built around this foundation.

Learning the art of self love, self care and sexual mastery is based upon “knowing they self”. Great care goes into crafting an optimum, safe and supportive space for this healing process to take place as you come to know your truest self, in your body, as the source of love. 

The retreat takes you on a transformational journey that is delicately held specifically for those who attend. I am drawing on a variety of tools and experience from the last 15 years of facilitating sacred womens workshops around the world.

The structure of the program is focused on increasing our intuitive wisdom beyond the rational mind. We engage in modalities such as:

•  Yoni yoga (a maintenance system I created to address the spiritual needs of a modern woman)
• The Enneagram ( A sacred geometrical Personality typing system for understanding the ego’s mechanisms and the door to true freedom from the mind) 
• Conscious Erotic Dance Journey ~ Awakening the primary sexual archetypes to embrace and claims the full expression of our sexual energy. 
• Human Design System 
• Oolong Tea ceremony ~ Working with master plants for awaking consciousness and healing. 
• Pranayama and Meditation 
• Pleasure Egg (Taoist Jade egg practises) 
• Kundalini / Chakra Movement  
• Self inquiry through discourse and discussion 
• Ritual & Ceremony

Menstruation as Ceremony

The Healing Power of taking time out for yourself every month.

December 10, 2015
Roxanna Minnona

“The simple act of stopping and being with yourself, especially during your time of menstruation, is the single most powerful thing a woman can do to love herself.”

— Roxanna Minnona

At the end of two-day retreat I recently held in Sydney my menstruation began. There were a few heavy tables to be relocated and, out of respect to myself, I pulled away with the loving support of my partner who was there to step in and lift the load. Nothing unusual to report there, but later that week we received a complaint letter form one of the male attendees stating that he was horrified and offended that I had “copped out” of cleaning up with the “lame excuse that I have my period”.

When I was younger this letter would have been like a knife to my womb and I would have been enraged at the lack of care and understanding men have expressed toward my femininity. But now, with the deeper insight and appreciation I have for my body and my sacred femininity, I realise that it is a gift to be able to share the significance that the Bleeding Ceremony has for all women – and all humanity.

All humanity is born though the womb of woman. And so it is, that when woman comes home to herself and lives in integrity with her being, taking care of her spiritual work, she does the work of healing herself and others. 

I believe that if we as a culture viewed and approached our time of menstruation as a sacred ceremony rather than a mere function of the body we would be living in a very different world today. 

Menstruation as a sacred time

I have had a deep fascination with the process of restoring our menstrual cycle – and the associated pain and trauma that it is for so many of us – to it’s inherent potential of heightened bliss states and sacredness. 

In a recent article for Earth Medicine, ‘The Bleeding Ceremony’, author Jessica Simmons, wrote about how in many traditional cultures,  “the ‘ceremony of woman’ or ‘ceremony of bleeding’ is considered a sacred time. In order for women to channel the cosmic energies present during this time of ‘death and rebirth’, a woman needs her isolated space, to which she may conduct any rituals, prayers, or meditations, accordingly.”  

“Much misunderstanding is birthed from the view of Western mentality when peering into such customs. It seems, to a society attached to feminist ideas, that because a woman is removed and there are traditions that are exclusively for women, that it was somehow a forced concept by male power. Yet, this is farther from the truth than some would realise. In fact, in all that I have witnessed and experienced, such customs are in reverence to the power of the woman, not the inferiority. I believe we are the ones who invoke inferiority concepts to our women because we DON’T respect or recognize this power, and instead choose to replace ritual and ceremony with fast-paced lifestyles that do not allow us to remove ourselves and feel our own power.” 

Jessica went on to say ....

“Much misunderstanding is birthed from the view of Western mentality when peering into such customs. It seems, to a society attached to feminist ideas, that because a woman is removed and there are traditions that are exclusively for women, that it was somehow a forced concept by male power. Yet, this is farther from the truth than some would realise. In fact, in all that I have witnessed and experienced, such customs are in reverence to the power of the woman, not the inferiority. I believe we are the ones who invoke inferiority concepts to our women because we DON’T respect or recognize this power, and instead choose to replace ritual and ceremony with fast-paced lifestyles that do not allow us to remove ourselves and feel our own power.” ”

— Jessica Simmons

Her words perfectly articulate my views on how discovering the deeper significance of our menstruation and how to properly care for our feminine physical and spiritual needs during this time has been met with so much resistance by both men and women. 

I believe that a great deal of the pain and suffering prior to and during menstruation is due to ignoring the spiritual aspects of the menstrual cycle and, in turn, denying the deeper spiritual nature of a woman. Even if the woman is engaged in a lot of spiritual activities, so much of the new age spirituality is offering ancient traditions that were designed by men for men. These traditions, including Yoga, were developed mainly in eastern cultures a long time ago in very different environments to those that women are encountering in our modern world today. 

A modern context for the tradition of the “Red Tent’ and ‘Sacred Moon Lodge’

Many old world and modern cultures that live in close communion with the earth and are kindred with nature have rituals that honour and celebrate women in their menstrual cycles. These customs derive from those such as that of the Native American traditions where ‘The Red Tent’ or the ‘Sacred Moon lodge’ was provided for the women of the village so they could gather during their menstruation and ‘bleed’ together, intuiting valuable knowledge and insights that were pertinent to the whole community. 

In cultures like these where woman’s isolation is stipulated during menstruation by the customs of the society, these regulations are placed out of a respect and honour of the profundity of this time and the necessity for her to do her inner work and CLEAN up what ever mess she is carrying on behalf of the tribe, so that she can return rejuvenated, replenished and cleansed, available to life in the way that SHE and the community needed her to be.

Nowadays women are functioning in a compromised condition. Excuses such as, “Oh she has PMS,” or “Watch out for the dragon” are both demoralising and unnecessary if we are to support women in refraining from operating in this compromised mode. There are no excuses for a woman to lash out due to the burden she carries. This kind of behaviour is simply a symptom of a woman neglecting her spiritual work. 

The Bleeding Ceremony I prescribe requires nothing but you. It is not based on any particular linage or custom, but there are many parallels with ancient customs and traditions. The most important aspect of the Bleeding Ceremony is that it is more an attitude than a ritual that must be adopted, learned and practised. When we as women recognise that our bleeding time IS the ceremony, divined by nature, then our only job is to be in alignment with that.

Even just the simplicity of approaching our bleeding time as a ceremony starts to shed a new light on things. By empowering ourselves through self-love and self-care we are alleviating the onus on anyone else to honour our relationship to our feminine bodies. That, in itself is sacred.

The bleeding ceremony is THE most powerful spiritual practise that any woman can embrace. The simple act of giving full attention to our needs without the allure of distraction brings us closer to who we really are and what we need at the level of body, mind and spirit

How we act during our menstruation is also a direct reflection of our relationship to our femininity and our true essence as women. The bleeding process is an integral function of maintaining healthy hygiene and integrity on all levels of a woman’s being – from the physical maintenance of the womb, the fresh blood required to conceive and nurture life, to balancing the endocrine system, maintaining hormonal balance, and ensuring the mental sanity of the woman by keeping her psyche unburdened and cleansed.

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How to do a Bleeding Ceremony

The following are the key guidelines I offer to women in assisting them to create their own Bleeding Ceremony, but be as creative as you like in developing your own ceremony.

1. Take at least 24 hours out for yourself

The Bleeding ceremony is very simple and the only real requirement to be with yourself without any interference for a minimum of 24 hours. The full Ceremony of Bleeding lasts seven days from the first day of your period. But if its impractical to take that length of time out, the first 24 to 72 hours MUST be honoured by ourselves and that requirement goes beyond all logical practical considerations.

In one sense you could say it is a non-negotiable priority. One of the biggest mistakes I see women make in our modern world is forgetting to value themselves. How can we expect anyone to love something that we are unwilling to love ourselves? How can YOU be anything other than the first priority in YOUR life?

At some point we have to prioritise the importance of things in our life. I believe that neglecting this causes many of the ailments that women suffer from. And in the woman suffering, so too do the people she is in relationship with because when a woman neglects herself her work, her projects and all that she loves suffers with her.

The requirement for a woman to withdraw from society and her life as it is, (including all the duties that she is obligated or otherwise committed to), is vital to her devoting her attention to being present with the ‘ceremony' that is naturally taking place. When we stop fighting and resisting nature and instead ‘go with the flow’, so many wonderful and seemingly miraculous things happen. We heal, we manifest and abundance naturally comes about in our life. 

SO much is happening during the bleeding phase of a woman cycle that it requires her undivided attention so that she can be with all the intricacies that are taking place. Most importantly, she must be present to the natural process of ‘letting go’ so that she can be completely open to receive ‘the new’ and all the freshness and optimism that come with it. Without this, women can plummet into depression and suicidal tendencies, as just one of the many side effects of neglecting her spiritual work. 

 2.  Rest, stay calm and be present to yourself

As best you can just rest up, stay calm, and enjoy the miracle of life weaving it’s magic through you. Listen to your body and get to know yourself. It’s also a good idea to avoid media and any other kinds of stimulation and influence. When we remain completely present the intelligence of our menstrual flow will guide us. What this looks like will be unique to every woman, which is why you need the privacy and the permission to explore your inner realms in whatever way you are guided to. This may be to sing dance, laugh cry, meditate, journal, crochet, knit, garden – whatever it is (along as it is not strenuous).  

 3.  Refrain from physical exercise and lifting heavy objects

During menstruation a woman’s energy spirals downward toward the earth. The ceremonial work requires a level of strength and stamina; and during bleeding there is a certain type of exhaustion that comes with it. Over doing it can cause sever fatigue later in the month or later in life.

So, avoid physical exercise (including Yoga) and especially avoid going to the gym! Lifting heavy objects and turning yourself inside out and upside down interrupts the natural flow of menstrual blood. Even lifting the shopping, getting out of a chair and wearing heavy boots can cause cramping. So try to move gracefully when you walk, move gently and pay attention to what your body is telling you. Cramps are your body’s way of communicating with you. Sit still, go within and listen to the pearls of your body is giving about how to live in harmony with your being. 

  4.  Refrain from other ceremonial activities

Generally, the function of ceremonies – be it a sweat lodge, the use of plant medicines or any other kind – is to raise our energy, enhance our awareness and reach heighten spiritual states. With the greatest respect, I caution women to refrain from beautiful and powerful activities during your bleeding ceremony. That’s because the Bleeding Ceremony requires ALL of you and although your mind may think you can handle multiple ceremonies all at once, the reality is that this kind of ‘multi-tasking’ may be very damaging to you. The Ceremony of Bleeding will illuminate various aspects of the woman in relation to her process, but participating in other ceremonial work at the same time can exacerbate an already highly sensitive condition and cause a lot of distress to a woman’s internal state.

  5.  Abstain from sex

The same is also true for sex. A man’s energy raises the Kundalini energy when he interacts with a woman. When a woman becomes very alert and present to her internal self, she may become sensitive enough to notice that even a conversation with a man can have an impact on her. During the seven days of the full Ceremony of Bleeding, our vagina and cervix open like an open wound. At the same time our psyche opens wide – without any veils or filters – making us more vulnerable than we normally are to external energies and other people. Pressing an open wound can cause damage, which is essentially what happens when the penis makes contact with the cervix during menstruation. Many women proclaim that it eases their cramps and this may be because endorphins kick in momentarily. However, the pain and tension is just being pushed deeper in and the cramps will come back – with a vengeance. 

 6.  Be grateful

The mind and the womb are intimately connected and most of the issues that women suffer with in their reproductive region relates to how we THINK. So your bleeding ceremony is a good time to assess and, if required, adjust your attitude. If you’ve found yourself sliding into a negative attitude or victim state, judging or comparing yourself to others, then this is a good time to correct all of that.

You may have had conflicts or challenges during the month that you have struggled with. The bleeding ceremony helps us to get to the root of the issues and find resolution. In this way, it is a good time to come back to the simple things in life and be grateful for everything including:

• The lessons you’ve learnt over the past month;
• The opportunities you’ve had to grow and become wiser;
• The challenges that have provided the doorways for life gifts and talents to emerge; and
• The choice to forgive yourself and others. When we truly surrender and find our forgiveness, this attitude is a remedy that heals all. 

  7.  Listen to your body – and avoid pharmaceuticals if possible

If you are in extreme pain AVOID PAINKILLERS! Taking pharmaceutical drugs will in no way remedy your situation. Your body is crying out loudly for you to pay attention and this is a wonderful opportunity for healing and breakthroughs – but it requires your patient attention because this pain is usually related to how you have been the whole month, not just in the moment. 

Magnesium (found in chocolate and capsules) is a natural remedy to menstrual pain. However, the most powerful pain relief method is to find a calm place (maybe your bed), get very comfortable (e.g. with a bolster under your knees), and just listen to your body. Place your hands where there is tension and feel what is happening. Listen with all your heart. Ask your body: “What are you trying to tell me? How have I been living ‘out of tune’ or ‘against myself’? What do I need to correct, let go of or alter in the way I function?

For all the reasons stated above, this is a time that your subconscious is WIDE open. Be careful of what you expose yourself to and in some way treat yourself as a newborn baby.  

  8.  Ask for the support of those around you

As a woman, it is important to claim back your life and live it in tune with your natural life force. It is equally important for the men in your life to be aware of your process in order to support you in the choices you need to make for the benefit of everyone in your family and your world.   

© Roxanna Minnona, A Tantric Life 2015. All rights reserved.

Healing the Mother Wound

The key to unlocking true and lasting compassion

Shantam Nityama
January 30, 2016

The symbiotic relationship between a mother and her daughter informs how the girl goes on to relate to herself as she grows into womanhood. In the child’s formative years all of the mother’s beliefs systems and behavioural patterns are unconsciously passed onto the young girl – including how the mother nurtures herself, how she relates to her body, her self-image and how she relates to men, money, health and life – everything!

The daughter watches the mother to learn about how to be a woman and around seven years of age, the daughter takes all this information and internalises it. As the young girl grows up she will automatically imbibe her mother without realising it. This happens even if she is in rebellion or if she in no way wants to emulate her mother. This will continue throughout the girl’s life unless she begins to do her spiritual work and addresses her inner work.

For mature women, ‘inner work’ involves replacing the mother that we have internalised with what you could call a ‘Divine Mother’ that can attend to our needs in the way that our birth mother may have neglected to or been unable to do. The Divine Mother is an aspect of your ‘higher self’ that is a source of unconditional love and support. 

In the process of healing the wound with your mother, it’s necessary to appreciate everything that your mother inherited from her mother. For example, there may have been various forms of abuse or other trauma along the ancestral line. There may have been different values, ideas and beliefs handed down from womb-to-womb and generation-to-generation.

So it is important to look at what previous generations have struggled with and have compassion for both your mother and for yourself. Today’s women have come from a generation of women who, for the most part, have had no voice. In their day, if there was an issue, the attitude was, ‘don’t talk about it and it will go away’. This, compounded with shame and social conditioning, has made it difficult for women to heal because issues where just suppressed. 

But you can make the choice for the patterns of past lineages to stop with you.

The difference between ‘letting people go’ and ‘freeing them up’
Many women I work with want to heal their mother wound, but struggle to let their mother ‘go’. That’s because there is a difference between “letting people go” and “freeing them up”.

When you become a fully-grown woman, you’re no longer a child that needs a mother. You no longer need to look to her to take care of you. And you’re no longer looking to her to fix what ever happen in your childhood. You let her off the hook.

Your task now is to free your mother up from having to be your mother any more. This in no way requires you letting her go, this just requires you communicating and thanking her for bringing you to the place in your life where you can now take full responsibility for yourself.

It also requires you being able to communicate with her about how you can now be a support to her so that she can grow and evolve further. You free her up to the larger context. She becomes just another beautiful human being that you know.

Now you can befriend her – if she is open to the friendship. But you can’t force it on her. If you communicate with her and she is open to it, you can now become her friend. And as friends, she can talk with you about the things she had difficulty with in her life and never talked about. Imagine her feelings of isolation and how well she did under that pressure – then you can have so much more compassion for her. That also immediately opens up the space for you to have much more compassion for yourself.

Approaching your mother wound this way is like handling a whole lot of business all at once – and it’s a beautiful thing.

When you find you are still trying to please and appease your mother
You might find yourself a bit shocked to realise that you are still trying to please and appease your mother. In those situations it is never really the mother that you are trying to please and appease, it is the conditioning of the society coming through the mother – that is a different story.

The mother’ gets internally programmed in a particular kind of way and she will attempt to pass it onto you. Let’s say that programming never ever really ‘fit’ her, and it definitely in no way ‘fits’ you. But now here you are struggling with how to never hurt by going against the conditioning that she never really wanted herself. Like you, she was forced into it, pushed into it and cajoled into it. But with you it stops. This is the moment when you look your mother right in the eye and say:

“You know there are so many things in life that we fail to challenge and question. We just blindly accept them and I no longer want to do that in my life. And I in no way want to support you in doing that to yourself, as you may have done in your past.” 

It’s all about learning to articulate in such a way that it’s in alignment with how things should function––how life really truly works––and we were never educated in that way. There were no instructions. So it’s quite a challenge to take on learning how to articulate these things in such a beautiful way that it practically opens the other person’s heart just in you communicating it to them in this way. It’s an approach to communicating that leaves the person feeling deeply touched, deeply seen and accepted by what you’re saying and the way you’re saying it. And then it opens the door for you to walk side by side and mutually support one and other. For example, you could say to your mother:

“I would love our relationship with one another to be one where we are both expanding and evolving into our awareness of our true potential. I want to lovingly support you in having enough courage to venture out beyond your previous limitations and I ask for your loving support as I attempt to expand even further, making even greater room for the both of us.”

Facing the challenge of no longer being needed as a mother
As mothers, many women are challenged by reframing the mother-daughter relationship dynamic when they are no longer needed as ‘mother’. It’s always very enlightening when we find ourselves sitting in a seat that we once judged. And we judge it with the assumption that we would never do what they did. You might have said, “I would never treat my child like such and such …”, without ever having been in the mother seat. You may have never tried on her shoes, never have felt the challenge of wrestling with your own conditioning and attempting to figure how to be with your child in order to refrain from putting that conditioning on them. And at the same time, you might think, “How do I just completely let the child grow up like a weed?”

The child wants a certain amount of boundaries because it feels unsafe without that. But how to give boundaries without being controlling – that’s the dance. How to be supportive and allow yourself to inform them and then leave room for them to make their own intelligent decisions? So as a parent your role just to present different options and then asking them, “In using your intelligence, which one of these would you choose for yourself?”

So then your helping them to begin to rely upon their own internal decision-making process to reach a conclusion about how they want to run their life – and it is their life! Remember, it in no way belongs to us. As parents, we are having our opportunity to have our life in whatever way we chose or just fall into, whatever the case may be. By just supporting these young ones to develop the type of intelligence they can use to really make healthy decisions based upon who they are in their own unique design. That is the best gift you can ever give a child! To support who they are, rather than attempting to mold them into some pre-determined idea that was forced upon you.

This article is an extract of Nityama’s discourse during A Tantric Life’s Winter Womb Retreat in Byron Bay NSW Australia, June 2015.  He will be giving a discourse at A Tantric Life’s Spring Equinox Retreat in the UK and is available for one-on-one sessions via Skype. 

© Shantam Nityama, 2015. All rights reserved.

Living a Tantric Life - Audio Interview

An interview with Roxanna Minnona
Kris Mc Kintyre from Sacred Womens Business
February 28, 2016

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"The heart is the woman’s place of power. But what women fail to understand is that its their softness, their Yin, that is the most powerful force. It’s like the water that cuts through stone. As women, we are all here to be love. But being a truly deeply loving, caring, feeling, compassionate woman is one of the rarest qualities that you will find in our culture right now." Roxanna Minnona

In this episode of Sacred Women’s Business, Roxy shares her knowledge and experience about:

• Mother-daughter relationships and healing the ‘Mother Wound’
• The true nature of woman and how to connect with the Feminine
• The difference between male & female initiation
• How to cultivate sexual and creative energy
• Menstruation as a healing process
• Understanding the male psyche
• Oolong Tea ceremony

Email me for a copy of the transcript.

Location: Rocket Music, Fox Studios, Sydney, Australia
Sound engineer & editor: David Holmes

For more than 14 years, Tantric goddess and temple dancer, Roxanna Minnona, has been helping men and women around the world reconnect with their essential nature and true calling. Through her ‘Dancing the Divine’ workshops and retreats Roxy invites people to throw off their societal conditioning and explore their true nature through the ancient art of sacred sexual dance (also known as Temple Dance). 

With her uncanny ability to channel her teachings and a deep wisdom beyond her years, Roxy is a divine inspiration for living a Tantric life. But be warned she is also a charmingly terrifying if you are not ready for her powerful sense of being what a woman is.